Fast Car - Revelation: Another Step

Hey Bloggers/Viewers
(which I've discovered are based in UK, USA and Germany  )

I know I only just posted but I was in work today humming/singing(badly) the song Fast Car by Tracey Chapman, when suddenly a thought struck me ...... I want to be Loved....maybe I should expand a bit more.

Everyone wants to be loved I am sure, but for me this was a huge realization and I know for a certain friend of mine, he will agree that for me this is a HUGE STEP on my journey to self-discovery to finding who I am really.
Look at it this way everyone in one way or another everyone believes in a greater purpose in life or a reason to do the stuff they do, they want something from life , they have that purpose or that motivation or that belief.  People may want money, they may want that present they never got, they may want to get their dream, they may want their parents approval ...... whatever the list goes on and on and on.

I know what I want from life or what I wish to get from life as I progress in life:

I Want To Be Loved

and I don't necessarily mean in a romantic/sexual way (though I wouldn't complain), I want to be accepted by people, I want to be viewed as a warming influence by people, I want people to come to me in their darkest hour and I will shine for them and brighten their day, I want to be able to meet someone new and make a new best friend, I want to see an old ex friend/girlfriend and no what happened in past only view positives and leave on brighter note then before even if we was already on good terms :'). 

I feel this is a huge thing for me, many people say you don't need anyones approval other then your own, and you don't. This is not what I am aiming for, even if that person I meet today doesn't like me generally, I wanna leave a positive impression, I am not looking for everyone to like me, I don't think that is actually possible to be loved by everyone but all I want is to be loved by those who are in my life and can be in my life and who I want in my life because they matter to me. 

I finally feel like I am making progress into my future a little bit somewhere in my vast mood of a mind, I am finally another step forward to fully discovering who I am, It may still be far away but I have took another step. 

I want to be Loved by my family, my friends, my ex's, my ex-friends, my co-workers, everyone possible, if they don't want that, then it is their own loss , all I want to do is love and be loved in return, one good turn deserves another, a bit of light in the darkest hour etc etc ( The cliches are endless :P ) 

I want to be a positive influence on those who matter to me and I know that in turn I feel I will be loved as a brother, as a friend, as a lover .....that list will go on.

I want to be Loved and that can mean so many things but I know what it means to me and that is all that matters and those who are close to me will have some inkling of it. So I have made progress today and that means I can be even more of what/who I am and even more of what/who I am yet to be .

This post needs a special thanks to :
Luke Seddon, Stacey Newsham, Rachael Statham, Laura Harrington, Charley Buckley, Ryan Radley-Lawley, Jenny Slack, Lauren Mccann, Nick Crosbie, Sean Crannery, Joseph Mitchely, Jade Cunningham, Britta Korner, Jamie Cubbis, Sean Hutchings , Hayley Henderson, Amy Payne, Junior Schultz, Rebecca Reynolds, Sonia Sharma, Nem Singson, Ian Marc Bradley, Sarah-Louise Ashton, Poppy Boland, Tansy Parkinson, Emily Taylor.......And many many many many (x400) more. I wish I could mention everyone but these are literally the people that came to mind immediatley as I was writing but you guys make me realise why I love my friends, any girls I take a shine to, my family. You guys show me why I live, why I love, why I laugh, why I make mistakes and why I get back up again , so from the bottom of my heart and soul
Thank you xxx

I Want To Be Loved.......What Do You Want To Be?

Love to you all and Hopefully Love in return ;) - your man in a hat

Joseph Reynolds x

Visualize, Achieve & Dream - Road To Fulfillment

I started this post with this image/quote to emphasis the importance of Goals/Dreams and that it is advice I should listen to really, It's never too late to start afresh or pursue something new and I am only young and I should stop stressing but that's part of who I am , I over-think everything, I put myself down far too often and I keep repeating mistakes that sabotage myself. But that is part of who I am, I need to stop trying to be someone who I am not and find who I am.

My last post I talked about motivation and beliefs , My ace bro for life gave me another piece of advice I need to follow

"Do things for yourself."

That's so simple but everyone seems to forget it so easily, everyone finds it so easy to be someone else or try to be someone else just for one thing or another. And PEOPLE NEED TO STOP DOING THAT,  do stuff that makes you happy, do things that help you move forward, you do not need to seek approval from everyone, while it is nice, you do not need it. 

You need no one's approval but your own. 

Your own life, lifestyle, your own word where you are the hero of your story , everyone in it is only a side character....Okay maybe every now and then you have a team member you want by your side for battles you encounter or for a special event and maybe you may even encounter a love interest the hardest uphill battle of all.

But you must always be who you are, even if you are not sure who you are deep down, find out and discover it because you can not make others happy if you are not happy yourself. 

So I suggest you become a person who sets a goal/dream and visualize it , when you visualize it , you help it become a reality , if you visualize how you are gonna achieve it and visualize achieving it , you will achieve it for definite . 

"Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Watch your words, for they become actions. Watch your actions, for they become habits. Watch your habits, for they become your character. Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny."

This is a double edged sword for if you fall into negative or bad thoughts or of course if your me and over-think everything , you set yourself up for self-fulling prophecy of failure. But if you get the right mind-set and strive to achieve all your goals and dreams even to some degree , you set yourself up for so much more, it is all about mind over matter.

I am not gonna lie people, I am going through motions because of so much, some good , some bad , some rather confusing , but when I initially thought of this and started writing in my personal book this was one quote that came back to me after so long :

Now! This is it! Now is the time to choose! Die and be free of pain or live and fight your sorrow! Now is the time to shape your stories! Your fate is in your hands!  - Auron Final Fantasy X

And it is so true , we can either give up and stay content with what we have now whether be good or bad or we can choose to start another dream , another fight and move onwards, everyone needs personal time to review themselves and think about what they want and where they wanna go.
That what am I doing now, I may be being down on myself now but I blame no one but myself, everything that has happened in my life until now, I am the one who created my thoughts, the one who did my actions and they became my habits , my character and my destiny.

I am choosing to change that , to start a new vision, a new dream and become more then what I am now, you may think much of me now or possibly think nothing of me but I am going to become so much more and thats a fight worth fighting for. 

 Peace/love to you all from your man in the hat
Joseph Reynolds

Motivation and Beliefs

Hey again followers and bloggers and general people's :)

I am writing today because it has been a huge ups and downs and general toughness and along with couple of deep conversations with couple of people including my friends Luke, Ryan, Charley , Joseph, Katie, Nick, Rhiannon and more besides has made me think. ( I know right, me thinking crazy)

I am beginning to re-think or re-look at what truly motivates me and what I truly believe or put my faith in.
I mean many people have reasons to be motivated it could be motivated for love of a person or love of a hobby/passion, for money to gain wealth and have that excess of financial freedom, for personal achievement just for themselves to gain that ability to say I set out to get this and I HAVE. That's just a few of many things that motivate people, but what keeps people going even through their darkest hours is their faith or their belief (if your not religious or think faith can only be applied to religion beliefs).
What truly keeps people strong at their core is their BELIEF(S). 


Belief is a strong concept and many people say that they don't truly believe in anything but everyone believes in something whether it be a religion, a person or just some vague thing like mixture of religion and science or a persons quote alongside their beliefs from being raised as a child by their parents.
My belief is mixture of thoughts, theories from close friends and family members and through it all I've made a few of my own, overall I believe their are/is a greater force(s) at work guiding or influencing my goals and actions day by day , minute by minute. A fave quote of mine and people probably annoyed at it by now is "Everything happens  in the order it's supposed to happen." That's one of my beliefs now or at least a core thing I believe in it was said to me by a great friend of mine during a dark hour long ago that I don't even remember what it was that sparked it but it's one thing I turn to when I need to think and have no idea where to begin, though I could easily say that what my friend believes in it could easily be different to what I believe it means.

This is where I have the took root in a huge framework of belief or structure of Bruce Lee's philosophy of Jeet Kune Do (JKD) known as 'The way of no way, the limit of no limit'. Now that's a brilliant thing to believe in or at least I feel work with to discover your own way , your own path or route to help you along in your journey of life, Use this with any new ideas, thought, theories or anything and work it and take what works for you and reject what doesn't this is basic concept of it , using this I have found many ways to motivate my self, to achieve any goals or tasks I set for myself. I think Jeet Kune Do is a great way to discover what can help motivate yourself in anything life gives you and I feel deeply it is a great way for both myself and anyone to help them filter or figure out what they can hold as their belief to keep them strong no matter how tough it gets for them.

So going back to this and with how today went for me, I feel I need to re-evaluate what I wish to strive towards for my future, what do I truly hold dear/what matters to me most and most of all what do I believe in.
With this I plan to set up three main goals this very precise moment:

1. Read and fully use "Eat that frog" - This will help me set and achieve goals and plans in both immediate and far future

2. Write/Read more - This goes for both my notes/blogs/books everything, I need to get through more writing personally so I can figure out a few things myself, but I feel creative side needs a little more nurturing to just let my mind wander a bit, while collecting and reviewing information I have written or have in my books of many variety's to help improve my skills/knowledge in life to help me be able to open opportunities in my future.

3.  Save Money - This is a basic one but a hard one to do because of lifestyle I lead and stuff just happens but I feel having that extra cash to hand would be useful so I don't have that pressure of going 'oh but that means only have spare tenner to XY date .' I want that financial freedom so that if I want to do something or get something that cost say hundred pounds that I can go " yeah I can do that and wish to do that because I feel the investment is worth it." That's gonna be hard one to do but needs to be done.

That's my goals to achieve, my "frogs to eat" if I wish to quote and I always do ;). So people who see me or speak to me often feel free to keep me on track or discuss these goals or discuss anything I've posted or just stop to me and chat, to help my mind wander and learn and gain even more. So I hope this has helped people discover or begin to help you realise your own motivations/beliefs in life, these are my goals at this moment and can easily change depending on this wide road of life.

Set your own goals to achieve, keep motivated and keep strong in your beliefs guys and gals as wise man once said," If opportunity doesn't knock, build a door."

I've been your man in a hat, best regards
Joseph Reynolds ;) x

 

 

Time for Change

Hey again people

First of all I feel I should be proud just had a little check/ chat with people and realised how many view's my blog is getting so thanks for looking and reading I hope this helps motivate and inspire others as I aim to try and do, I write so I can look back and read my past thoughts and goals and help myself move forward to finding a better me and fulfilling any goals I set. And I hope this does the same for others so you feel like you yourself can make your own changes in life and make a bigger impact on your goals or on others to help them progress through life and achieve theirs depending on why your reading or what you hope to gain from reading.

Anyway to my point of my post today.
I am writing today to first of all to make sure I keep writing otherwise once again I will a good thing behind when it's so useful to me for so many reasons that I may or may not list, I probably will at some point keep an eye out for them. Secondly I think this is time for me to make some more changes or discoveries in my own life and life style, I mean I hear a lot from people that I am "A NICE GUY" but..... is that all their is to what people see to me , don't get me wrong that's a lovely thing for people to say and brilliant to hear from majority of my huge net circles of friends and their are many different ways people have phrased it:
"You are generally an amazing guy" - Ryan my bro. <3
"Your amazing Joe" - Variety of people
"Your one of the nicest and genuine guys I've ever met" - Stacey and others (But I remember this one from Stacey)
"Your amazing Hun" - Charley
"Love you my dear Joe, you're an ace person, truly top notch and i hope you  stay my friend for many good years!" - Rachel
" No matter what happens mate , I will stand with you till the end even if we went into battle I'd be at your side and shout your battle cry even if we decided it last minute to be 'a pizza hut, a pizza hut, tuckey fried chicken and a pizza hut." - Luke my bro. <3 ( sorry I couldn't remember actually what you said but it still means a lot to me)
" your a really lovely guy and I think in about three years time you'd ve my perfect guy " - Britta ( there was much more.to.this lovely message but sadly couldn't find it but means a lot to have heard that )
" You are truly my guru" - Jenny
" I'm really glad to have met you " & " your a lovely guy" - Laura
"Your a genuinely nice and honest guy, so genuine and honest that it scares me a little." - Tom L [ :') this still makes me giggle a bit ]

I could go on and on but these are the ones that stood out to me and one's I remember these are the things that make me want to be who I am and so much more. I am told that I am a nice guy but I wish to be that and more, I wish to be what you guys have said and so much more, I wanna be that guy who you know is always their no matter how far apart we are or how long its been since I've last seen you.
I wanna be that man who is approachable and you know you can talk about anything about easily and freely, and maybe I can solve your problems or maybe I will at least be an ear to listen, a shoulder to lean on and some wise advice to give you to help you along.
I wish to be that man and so much more and I feel that I can achieve that and all so much more, but I cannot be that guy just yet I can only be for I am at this very moment , I need to follow my friends advice which was
"You need to some time for yourself and live for yourself and no one else."
I need to do somethings for myself and myself only, I need to take time for my own choices and not care what others think or care. Now anyone reading this I don't mean do what you want and then not listen to others are saying for some stuff you may do may be the wrong choice at moment wise man once said " Don't act impulsively on your emotions" or as i just thought  of Don't let your mind control you or your heart rule you ( I feel rather impressed with that sentence :D )

But do go out and do stuff for yourself and don't stress so much about any work/social nit picky politics, Like today for example I had a busy day at work so when my shift was over, I didn't overly stress that I could stay, I offered because I wanted to and then once turned down, grab some food and sat down with a friend for catch up, then bought some new pens and pad so I could write a little and start some more little fun projects and finally decided to go to improv workshop at mello mello because these are all things I wanted to do for me because it made me feel good and happy. I didn't worry that work was busy and they could probably need a spare pair of hands or about any minor fiance because I didn't have any other immediate bills or money troubles at this moment in time so I could afford to buy couple of small things and Finally thought doing something silly and fun would do me some good instead of just going home and sitting about or sleeping before bedtime .

So I am going to try and Live for myself for a bit and if you having rough couple of days or having a rough patch yourself, I recommend trying it, just do stuff for yourself, don't go overboard and ignore friends or family but just make time for yourself to have some peace and thought, to just sit down and perhaps do nothing or maybe your like me and want to do something but do something that you want to do because it make you happy or makes you feel productive :).

This moment in time, I am going to try and watch couple of things that I have been recommend by many people and I am especially going to try and do some writing (personal, creative, comedy all types really, but trying to focus on personal bit more) , I am going to try and get more in shape because I wanna be more productive physically, I am going to go back to some courses I started ages ago and pick them up again and improve my mind and skill set.
I know this won't be an easy journey or task to accomplish and I don't think I will be able to discover who I am really am , who is the real joseph reynolds, I am me now but only so much of the me I could achieve to be, I don't think I will know the answer a year from now, or 5 years or possibly 10 years, I could know but I don't know now so I am going to start trying to from now onwards.
So one thing I will ask this is for both me and you readers, if you see me with pad and pend ,
Don't ignore me or feel that I need to be left in peace.
Come and join me, start a conversation and have a chat, hell ask what I am writing about, I find good company and chats can usually be more creative and inspirational instead of loads of alone time to write.
So Live life and write, chat, enjoy the experience of the world and all it's events and happenings , life is too short for regrets and we never have enough time anyway, so carpe diem and seize the day while you can.
Keep me motivated guys and I will try to do the same for you
Peace and much love guys
Joseph Reynolds - Your guy in the hat

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